How to overcome social anxiety without going to therapy?

What is social anxiety ?

The dread of being viewed badly by new people may be too much for those individuals so much so that it has a negative impact on their capacity to accomplish their work well. In fact, the prospect of having to be somewhere where they would be inspected by others might be enough to make them feel uneasy, make them not want the job in first place.

This is how social anxiety disorder is described. The exact cause of social anxiety disorder is unknown, however it's assumed to be a combination of factors, a combination of genetic and environmental variables, such as having a close family who suffers from social anxiety or having been subjected to neglect or cruelty.

Now how to overcome it ?

I'd like to share with you six tactics that we should all use daily and help others. The first step in dealing with social anxiety is to recognize it.

• The first strategy is to adjust your mindset. The former mission was, Hey, I want people to think well of me. My new mission, as well as yours, is I'm going to encourage people to feel good about themselves, we're gonna be very focused on the other person not ourselves.

• Number two is to assume that people like you and take it for granted that they love you. If you walk into a social situation or even a meeting with another person and you have the feeling that people like you or that this person loves you, what is there not to love, right? If you walk in and you have the feeling that they really like you, you'll be acting more confident and open, and people will notice. You're going to be driving people away with your body language, so just knowing, people like me, want me here is going to help you a lot.

• Don't be hesitant to utilize self-disclosure as number three. If you tell someone you're meeting for the first time that you have social anxiety but that you're working on it and that you're always in the process of improving, they'll warm up to you and want you to succeed, and they'll be much more engaging, so don't be afraid of self-disclosure.

• Number four is when you're going to a a social event, let's say a work party some kind of big party giving yourself a job helps you get through it, it helps you kind of focus on your job instead of your anxiety so at a big a party you might want to take coats you might want to welcome people you might want to ask them what they'd like to drink, you might want to ask the hostess if you can carry around some, you know maybe she has a plate of hors d'oeuvres or snacks you can carry around, you can offer to get people things may be set  up a game whatever it is, but tries to find some way to give yourself a job it'll make you feel like you belong there.

• Number five is before a social event, set yourself a challenge just say okay I challenge myself to go to this event and try to find out something new from maybe two different people and try to not stand in a big group of people, that makes people with social anxiety very uncomfortable, try to instead get a group of one or two, where you can just have a one-on-one conversation or just with a couple of people and again try to focus on the other person, stay curious to ask them questions people love to talk about them get them talking about themselves and a great question is, hey tell me about yourself people will begin to tell you about themselves, and then listen, don't go back into your mind listen and ask them follow-up questions but stay curious, stay engaged with them.

• Six is very similar I've already said, the words but it stays out of your head don't let your thoughts you know, your focus go back to your thoughts in your head about oh this is uncomfortable, oh my gosh I can't wait to get out of here, I can't stand this ,oh I don't think they like me, this is terrible, you can't wait to go home like get out of your head and focus again on the other person and engaging so much of what when people have social anxiety is, they have an inner critic in their head telling them all the things they're doing wrong, and instead, if you focus on the other person interacting engaging with them learning about them your inner critic doesn't have a chance at that point, they don't have a voice because you're focusing.

Finally, I hope that these approaches may assist anyone suffering from social anxiety and that you realize that while you may feel anxious, it will pass.